co-incidence or something else?

so after my night out with a good mate, where the inevitable discussion around the situation with Chris was aired and a strategy presented (his, unlike Emma's, is 'friends or nothing') I got home feeling confused and a bit lonely...long weekends can sometimes do that to a girl....

i get to thinking about Ben

i think I'll send him a text.....but before i do, i wonder if that's fair coz the person i want to text is the person i can't text ('i am at home')...so imagine my surprise when a text arrives.....from him, Ben...

universe works in mysterious ways sometimes...

had a nice chat, he invited me over, I said no thanks, he told me his Mum
moved out (not surprised), we talk about stuff, he does his MBTI and turns out he's ISTJ! didn't see that coming but as I REALLY struggle with ISTJ's, I roll my eyes and think 'no wonder'..

funny coz the person I initially wanted to text was Chris to say 'I need to see you' so I can tell him what I need to tell him....you know, execute that 'strategy'...but he wouldn't have responded and I would have felt worse...
glad I didn't....

didn't initiate with Ben either coz didn't want my anger or very big residual desire to have sex with Chris to be present with Ben...as I said to my therapist, Ben was one if the very few (in fact can't think of others off the top of my head) men I've had a relationship with where my 'pattern' did not apply so didn't want to send him any mixed messages etc...also I'm not sure I would wanna revisit sex with him, and not because it wouldn't be good, we had a good sex life (when we had one)but I'm not sure I'd want to or if it would be wise to open that pandora's box up again (mental note to self: try not to let current desire for sex get in way of sensible decisions...)

so nice conversation, they all seem kinda nice these days...guess the passing of time can do that? the hurt and anger diminishes, the disappointment is replaced with acceptance and a different dynamic emerges??

so, what do you think? co-incidence??