tennis anyone?

not really sure what to think....so we talk today and he tells me something and i get to thinking about how 'biased' we (and by we, i mean me!) can be at times...how closed we can be to anothers perspective, and of course in my defence, there were plenty of good reasons (not the least of which my not needing to be hurt again by him) for not allowing myself to see his side of things....

of course this is entirely normal right? most people don't spend a lot of their time considering things from another perspective - if they did, i probably wouldn't have a job doing what i do because if people did it for themselves, they certainly wouldn't need to come and have me help them do it!  but even me, who does spend a lot of time (too much historically actually, hence my new freedom in not doing it as much) didn't really (other than a fleeting thought when he first turned up) think about not only it, but his life, from a perspective other than mine....and now he's given me a glimpse (perhaps we could say that he has been vulnerable with me?) i have a slightly different take on it...

seems i had previously built up this 'picture' of him and his life and i did that to protect myself and to (if i'm being really honest) find a way not to like him....but he shared something with me today that (and it wasn't big or mind blowing and probably he didn't think anything of it at all) that makes me think that, even though we may think that someone else's life is picture perfect, often they aren't....

sooooo, tennis anyone?