really it is! so i've blogged about gratitude before and honestly, i find it an enormously useful approach to life, not only with clients, but also for myself..
see when things aren't great or i'm having a bad day or i feel sad, or anything really that feels other than how i'd like it to be, i try and remember all the great things in my life and all the reasons i have to be grateful - and there are MANY! and i'm not saying that things can't always improve, coz they can right? but it's important (for me anyway) to be able to look around me and realise just how fortunate I am and to express gratitude for that...
i have also found that there seems to be a direct correlation between gratitude and decreased whinging or wishing things were different - meaning that the more one takes stock and appreciates what one has, the less one wants more...my grandfather would totally have understood this - one of his many traits was his ability to be thankful for what he had...
so the reason this gets a special mention tonight is really twofold....firstly, i am really struggling with my health right now (digestion, stomach issues etc) and yet other than one day last week where i felt a wee bit flat (my best friend noted this immediately upon me calling her) i am still happy, i can still find many reasons to smile, i can still find time to do things for other people and i am still trying to live my life the way i want to...in times gone by i might not have done this, and don't get me wrong, i am struggling - i am taking all manner of medications right now (until i see my new doctor/naturo next week) to try and get through the day, but through all of that, i am still managing to be (outwardly at least) my bubbly and caring self...
so imagine my surprise when i'm talking to my neice and nephew tonight and at the end of the call my brother in law gets on the phone (my neice handed him the phone so i doubt it was voluntary!) and when i ask him how he is in the lead up to his 40th (end of this month) he tells me that he's not having a crisis so much as wondering what to do and what choices he have and then (in what i think may be a backhanded comment at me, or perhaps it was simply him expressing his observation of his situation...not sure!) he says 'well i'm not like some people who have heaps of money and choices'.....and i get to thinking well he's the ONLY person who is responsible for that situation, but of course is unlikely to do anything about it but whinge, and worse (and i have no evidence of this exactly but it's my feeing, and if his wife, my sister, is anything to go by then i may be onto something) begrudge others for the situation they may have created for themselves...
weird - i literally hung up the phone shaking my head...
soooo perhaps i should get him for his birthday a book about gratitude....what do you think? had been struggling for ideas - maybe it will help him look at his life/situation differently (which to me, is a gift....)...
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