date from hell....

perhaps not quite, but close! so here's what i wrote to my friend Emma by way of an update, after my 'date' with David (we met on Sunday online, emailed for a coupla days, he called Tuesday afternoon and suggested a drink that night which was actually good as I find that emailing them for ages invariably leads to disappointment upon actual meeting....):

Sooo the guy and I had some lovely emails then he sends back one today that was a complete turnaround in tone, and I send back a short one saying, what’s gotten into you – he calls, we have a bit of a laugh about it, then he asks me what I’m doing tonight – of course didn’t really want to go out (it being wet and cold and me still having this headache) but I went – figured meeting them earlier is always better than having heaps of nice emails and then meeting them in person and it being such a disappointment compared to the person you’ve built up in your head – so we meet – it’s ok but then he keeps banging on about his mental health issues – so he asks me twice if I want to have dinner with him and I say sure, then he really starts going on about this mental health thing and when I ask him what he means by mental health and if he defines himself by this mental health he gets a bit cagey and says ‘I don’t want to have to defend myself’ – this from the bloke who tells me he’ll answer me 100% honestly….

So then I start thinking about all the possible issues and the fact that he tells me he was seeing a girl who was seriously mentally ill (are you sensing a theme here) and that she still texts him all the time and that he was in love with her – so I ask him if he still is and he says ‘I’m not sure but she’s not the sort of person I want to be with – I want to try and be with someone who’s stable’ and I am thinking ‘what the fuck am I doing here here’…so I tell him I'm not sure I want to be his guinea pig and that I’m taking a raincheck on dinner and he basically gets up, says well good to meet you and leaves! (and here endeth my email to her...)

Hilarious! Well, positives are that the emails were lovely, well constructed emails (of course he is a trained journo and now a comms manager so you'd expect that) although in hindsight I recall they were very one way, which in fact, was just like his conversation - actually more like monologue as conversation implies that there is an exchange or dialogue...at one point he'd been talking for about 45 minutes, asked me if i was bored (i was but decided i didn't want to be hurtful by saying yes), then asked me my 'story' and as i started he interrupted me...when i picked him up on interrupting me, i sensed he didn't really like that!

Soooo that's essentially my last experience of dating - kinda makes my date with short guy look much better!

So, for now, at least, i'm just back to focussing on me, getting my room painted, getting my kitchen done, securing some work (fingers crossed a big thing is about to come off) and doing my thing!

Oh, and getting better - today has been a much better day, so hopefully that trend will continue...

Have a nice weekend everyone :-)