so today i went to a couple of amazing talks! and yesterday i had been struggling to make the connection between the presentations and coaching, but today i had no trouble at all, as both of them had prepared presentations/talks that very much were about how to work with people in a coaching/therapeutic capacity...
so the first one was about the difference between 'know how' and 'being' and for a therapist who favours an existential/humanistic approach, this was right up my alley! this guy denis marquet (who's talk was in french but translated) was great....how to give up what you know in favour of simply being - i love it...so in order to do this he claims that we need to let go of our 'appearance', what we 'own' and what we 'do'.....
great stuff and will be great to be able to use with the appropriate coaching clients when the opportunity presents itself and for me, great to apply in my everyday life...i have long since gone beyond the days of trying to define myself by how i look, what i own or what i do, and in fact this time last year i was still grappling with the question of 'who was sarah?'....
having recently lost my job (even though i positioned myself for it), and my grandfather (he passed away the very day i left corporate life), and started to realise that the man i loved was not the right man for me, i found myself asking myself a large number of very important questions...
the good news is that i have come out in one piece, although at times i wasn't sure i would make it out the end a stronger person...but i did! what i know is what i want, and who i want to spend time with, and importantly what makes me happy...
so what i realised during this time, which had for some years been bubbling up, was that what i 'did' for a living was not making me happy and not bringing me any joy, and what i had (my beautiful home and the various other possessions) were also not bringing me happiness....so there began the journey of working out where that happiness comes from...
and through a combination of meditation, reflection and being really honest with myself, i realised that i am truly happiest when i am helping others...helping them to live happier and more fulfilling lives...the work i do now is just that and as such it doesn't feel like work - and what i mean by that is, it doesn't feel like something i do but something i am....i.e. it's not about what i know or what i do or where i live or what i own, it's about who i am...and just being sarah....
so to hear someone else talk about it was just a great way to re-affirm what i already knew - of course he put it very eloquently, so thanks to him for that!
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