sex and the city...

yep, i finally saw the movie which for those of you who know me and how obsessed i was with the show when it was on will be surprised to know that it took me over a week to get there...guess i have slightly different priorities these days!

soooo i was expecting something of a cliche - you know how books made into movies or sequels are often a complete disappointment? well i can tell you, this was not! it was full of the sorts of 'real' experiences that girls in their late 30's/early 40's truly go through - it was funny and heartfelt and real and moving - i cried at least 4 times, not including the final scene where big and carrie finally tied the knot - i loved the last 'narration' in the tv series (that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself) - years later i can still quote it! and i loved the one in the movie too (and whilst i won't try and quote it verbatim as i'm bound to stuff it up) it was something about the dangers of labelling people...so whilst the movie was funny and in many ways a bit of 'fluff' it had some powerful and very relevant messages! why else would millions of women worldwide have organised their social lives around the next episode of sex and the city - why else did scenes in the movie get rousing receptions from the theatregoers (most of whom were women)?

what i loved most was not that big and carrie did end up together but that they did it their way (eventually)...simple is often the best...

soooo whilst it was good and i enjoyed it, it reminded me of times gone by and i experienced a lot of sadness for friends no longer in my life...in particular one...kate...kate and i met in 1997 whilst working at ibm - we quickly formed a friendship which became probably the most important friendship to me over a long period of time...in the last year i made a conscious decision to move on from the friendship as i believed (and still do, for the most part) that it was no longer working in the way i'd like it to work - but it was a grown up 'breakup' if you can call it that - i often think of kate (and her lovely children) and hope that she is happy and leading the life she wants to lead - i have (as i'm sure we all do when we move on from someone who has played a pivotal role in our lives) times when i wonder if i did the right thing and there are often things that remind me of her and the wonderful friendship we shared...

the other feeling the movie evoked in me was a sadness for a past that seems to now be well and truly behind me - see i spent the large majority (bar the odd 'liaison' here and there) of my tv viewing of SATC single...so it was interesting to see the movie now i find myself happily 'coupled'...i guess it made me sad to think that for the majority of the tv series i thought i might never meet my 'mr big'...guess i was wrong! so i guess whilst this was a happy sort of sadness, one might call it nostalgia, it made me a little sad to think of all those times i thought it would never be my turn and the pain that caused me :-(

anyway, a thank you: to kate for being a caring, inspirational and fabulous friend for the time that we were friends - i wish you well and i hope you are happy...to ben, for finding me and for loving me in the way i have wanted to be loved - you are my sunshine...

nite
xox